You Are Your Soulmate
What’s a soulmate? I’ve heard many theories and definitions of what a “soulmate” actually is, and my favorite is this: “A soulmate is someone who completes me.” While I love the poetry behind this idea, it suggests that we are incomplete until we reunite with the lost half of our soul. It’s as if our soul and our soulmate’s souls are puzzle pieces that combine to form a beautiful picture.
But what if you’re soul wasn’t broken up? What if your soul was complete, whole and beautiful inside of you? What if you’re not “incomplete”, but you only think you are?
A friend reminded me today of a quote in the New Testament. Jesus said, “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” Look at that quote, and I’m sure the words that stand out to you are “love” and “neighbor”. But what about “thyself”? When’s the last time you loved yourself or were generous to yourself? When’s the last time you forgave yourself for doing something you regretted? When’s the last time you treated yourself to something special? When’s the last time you loved yourself like you’d love your soulmate?
Love is a quality that cannot be found because it cannot be lost. Love always lives within each and every one of us. Sometimes we might not be present to the feeling of love because we deny it within ourselves. But it’s always there — waiting for us to let go of the hose so that it can easily flow out. Love is always available for us! And if love’s always available for us, what’s stopping you from letting it be present for you? You might be holding a grudge against someone who has wronged you, and so you hold back the love. You might be worried about a deadline or being safe in the future, and so you hold back the love. You might even be beating yourself up about something you wish you hadn’t done, and so you hold back the love. But ultimately who’s being denied the love? It’s you! And who’s denying you the feeling of love? You too! And if you knew you were consciously denying love to your soulmate, would you keep love from him/her? Or would you do everything in your power to make sure your soulmate felt comforted, supported and loved?
As Christmas and the Holidays are upon us, and we share tidings of comfort and joy, let us remember that the expression of joy and love start from within ourselves. If we treat ourselves as our soulmates, we have no reason to withhold love from our life. In fact, we have every reason to stoke the love-fire of our soul and give blessing for the fact that we really are whole, perfect and complete. And as we allow our light to shine, we give people the opportunity to unleash their own love within themselves. And to me that’s the true meaning of Christmas! Do you hear what I hear? It’s your soul wanting to share it’s love with the world! Let it out to play. And Happy Holidays!
I like this concept regarding soulmates:
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life…”
— Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)
I love it! I really like the global idea of everyone we meet shows us a mirror to who we are being at that moment in time! Miss you, girl! Hope you’re great!
I’ve found my soulmate and I agree that I didn’t “need” him to complete ME. But I will say that I wasn’t aware of how to completely love myself until I loved him. He reminds me that I am worthy to be loved even with my imperfections. I love loving him.
Merry Christmas Rory! I love you too!
Aw Rory! This is just lovely!
Maybe the notion of soulmates gets overplayed and oversimplified, like karma does. Soulmates and karma for a Disney audience. Maybe it’s about slouching in relationships, both those with others and ourselves, as in people don’t (want to) do the hard and rewarding work of completing themselves **themselves** and expect that someone will do it for them. Whatever it is, you’re right that love is the answer. Love, and fun too! Have love and have fun NOW. (!!!)
Happy awesome fun & love-filled holidays to you!
I am like a ripe fruit whose stem grows thicker and stronger year by year. I become unpluckable as I ripen. I am full within myself; I am content.