I Get By With a Little Help From My Friends…

Thank God for friends! Over the last few days I have been transformed through the eyes and thoughts of my friends. Basically, two dear friends listened to me share about some difficulties I’ve been having and then decided to make a difference. Instead of consoling me and encouraging my negative and frustrated thoughts, they bravely questioned and helped me see my challenging situations in a new light. Where I had thought I was unsupported and misunderstood, my friends inspired me to realize that I was actually being supported and loved. These friends are my angels — they are committed to me fulfilling my potential and powerfully shining in the world! And the kicker is that I fuel their work…

Why? Because I listen to them!

Sometimes its hard to hear them because I don’t want to let go of my desire to be right about the people who I think are wrong. Sometimes I feel that the people who’ve hurt me just need to pay for what they’ve done. But these feelings only shut me down and spiral me further down the rabbit hole of frustration, anger and upset. And in the middle of this darkened rabbit hole my friends shine a light down on me and give me the ability to see how to climb out. Now they could just stand there and say, “Oh. You’ve fallen down a rabbit hole. I can see how that sucks.” But they don’t. They say, “You know you can climb out of there! Here, let me help you.” And as I start to climb out they get more excited to help me get out of the hole! And when I’m finally out, we’re all filled with gratitude. I’m grateful to be out of the hole, and my friends are grateful to have me back in the light. Its a mutually beneficial event.

Do you know what I’m talking about? Do you know that feeling of joy and inspiration when you help a friend transform the negative thoughts that are making him/her depressed, angry or unloved? Have you ever been grateful for a friend that did the same for you? Well guess what — your friends are constantly wanting you to shine. They want you to be in a state of joy, happiness and love. Because when you are shining they have the ability to shine too. But so often we don’t give our friends the ability to help. When they try to say something we silently accuse them of nagging at us, of not taking our side, or of being against us. Its as if we’re saying, “Stop shining that light in my rabbit hole! You’re just trying blind me!” And in reality all they are trying to do is HELP YOU! Remember this next time you are upset and you are talking to a friend. Sometimes they might just listen and let you talk yourself out of the hole. And other times they might start trying to shine that flashlight in to help you. When they do, shut up and listen. Listen for the love and support they are offering you. I promise its there. It might not always seem like it because they might be frustrated by the situation too. But if they didn’t want you to be happy and in a state of bliss, they wouldn’t be around you in the first place. Remember that. And know that we get by with a little help from our friends…